How to deal with a “crush”?

There’s a word that is widely spread on students’ online forums—crush, which means producing a sudden infatuation with someone that may not be that familiar with us. We enjoy the feeling of being nervous and excited. It makes our ordinary life fresh and exciting, and even when we become friends, the feeling will not disappear.

However, we should realize that any kind of emotional state can add some trouble while adding color to our life. Many students around us get caught up in this emotion, second-guess each other’s thoughts, search for a lot of relationship skills, and just can’t stop chatting with their crush.

So how should we deal with this situation? I have some suggestions for two groups: those who are emotionally disturbed by their crush and those who want to go further with their crush.

To those who are emotionally disturbed by their crush:

1.Make a conscious effort to tell yourself that the crush is just a fantasy. That person is not really involved in your life, and you can restrain your behavior;

2.Find alternative activities to distract yourself, like exercise, which boosts the release of dopamine and makes you feel good;

3.Focus on the life in front of you. Ask yourself what are your priorities in life right now? What is your goal? Keep your focus on the present and the crush will subside before you know it.

And to those who want to go further with their crush, we need to realize that a crush doesn’t automatically develop into an intimate relationship. According to the literature, most young people report that their crush is a casual encounter that only develops into a friend, and very few cases develop into a more intimate relationship. In that case, there are a few steps you can take to help you connect with your crush.

1.Stop unrealistic fantasy and let what floats in the air of the heart play to the ground. You need to figure out what your relationship really is and how far away you are from your partner.

2.Show them how much you appreciate them. Don’t expect them to read your mind.

3.Start by being friends and paying attention to listening to each other, so you can get to know each other’s real personalities, likes, dislikes, etc.

In the end, no matter how you’ll end up in a relationship, it’s important to focus on that part of you that is so endearing and true. Exploring that part of you and enjoying the moment is what we can bring to ourselves.