You Don’t Need to Make Friends for the Sake of Making Friends: Finding Like-Minded Connections in Your Own Way

In the diverse and vibrant environment of university, each of us comes together in this hall of knowledge, carrying our own dreams and aspirations. Here, we not only acquire professional knowledge but also grow and mature through our interactions with others. However, when faced with the complexities of social circles, we often find ourselves feeling lost, placing too much emphasis on networking. This can turn the act of making friends into a burden and even cause us to question whether we can find true confidants.

We are often taught to build connections in university as a way to pave the way for our future careers. However, few people guide us on what kind of friends we should seek or how to maintain meaningful relationships. As a result, we navigate this process by trial and error, learning from our mistakes and discovering our own approach to making friends.

A friend of mine never actively seeks out friendships; instead, she naturally connects with like-minded people in her own way. She is somewhat reserved, with only a few close friends, but each one is a confidant who has stood the test of time. She doesn’t rush to expand her social circle but takes her time to observe and listen. Believing that true friends are partners who understand and grow together, she is particularly careful when choosing friends and never settles for anything less than meaningful connections.

Her friends come from diverse backgrounds, each with their own personalities and interests, yet they share one common trait — a love for life and a pursuit of their true selves. When they’re together, they freely discuss their ideals, share their joys and confusions, participate in activities, and support one another. She values the depth of emotion and sincerity in communication over the breadth of connections. In her view, true friendship is built on mutual respect and understanding, not on superficial enthusiasm or courtesy.

Her approach to making friends has deeply inspired me. In this fast-paced society, we are often overwhelmed by the pressure of social activities, losing sight of the true purpose of friendship. Yet, she remains true to her inner beliefs and has found her own path.

She once told me that making friends is like planting flowers; it requires patience and careful nurturing. Only by tending to these relationships wholeheartedly can we cultivate beautiful blossoms and genuine friendships. She encourages me to express myself bravely, seek out like-minded people, and create beautiful memories together.

Under her influence, I began to slow down, appreciate the details of life, and listen to my inner voice. I started making an effort to form friendships with people who are truly worth connecting with, creating a life that feels richer and more colorful.

Making friends should never feel like a burden, nor should it be the result of forced effort. True friends are those who connect with our souls and pursue dreams alongside us. They may not always fit into our predetermined expectations, but it’s these unexpected connections that make life truly wonderful.

I hope we all find our own way of making friends during our wonderful time at university, gaining both sincere friendships and personal growth.